Rhianna has a song that says her man should make her “feel like the only girl in the world.” While the song may have other questionable lyrics, that statement is wonderful and one that I whole heartedly agree with. I think that every woman in every relationship should be given that courtesy. After living with two daughters and a wife, I can’t count how many cases of whiplash and neck strain have occurred while men tried to ogle my ladies, usually while standing/walking/sitting right next to their dates/significant others! “People watching” is one thing, but blatant disrespect is another. I know there’s a lot of temptation out there and a lot of people don’t respect themselves, but it doesn’t mean we need to follow suit.
A lot of people I know would argue that they’re married, not dead. Or that they aren’t married so why not play the field, sow their oats. That they haven’t signed any papers, so it’s all fair game. In today’s world “spread the love around” has become a mantra, a normal behavior. In other words date as many people as you want at any time you want (seemingly regardless of wedding vows!), so you have to keep your eyes open for the next prospect.
What about common courtesy and respect? Shouldn’t the people we spend our time with feel important, not just good enough until something “better” comes around the corner? If you have to take your eyes off your lady to examine other prospects, doesn’t that automatically make her second best? Disposable? If you are married, in a relationship, or even just dating, your woman (no, not like a possession!) deserves to be the center of your attention. Visually, physically, and emotionally. Like she was the only girl in the world. If you’re trying to find the ying to your yang, your soul mate, your life partner, your other half…the person that fills in the missing pieces in your world, then be honest with her and yourself. If your eyes, hands or mind are going to wander, then walk away or let them walk away.
Let’s restrain ourselves, shall we? Our ladies deserve our full attention and we should be able to expect theirs in return.
“Anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28